Life With and Without Facebook

When it comes to Facebook, I have reached a point where my perspective on it has divided into two halves.

On the one hand, I’m thinking:

Oh no, Facebook, what have you done?

  • Most of the people who I called ‘friends’ have turned into lazy, nosey busybodies because of you!
  • They can’t be bothered to talk on the phone, never mind meeting up. 
  • All they are after is Likes, Shares and Comments on their endless, sometimes mind-numbing and too-personal photos.
  • They have even stopped saying ‘Hi…How are you doing?’ on the messenger service. The only time I get to hear from them is when social media reminds them about my birthday. And when I thank them and ask how they are, I usually get no reply. I think that’s RUDE!
  • If I invite people to an event, some click ‘Accept’but then don’t turn up and don’t even bother to explain why they didn’t turn up! I think this is VERY RUDE! There is a “Can’t Go” button, people,  use it! If you’re afraid to upset the inviter then you need to rethink the premise of your relationship with them, but otherwise, they shouldn’t really mind if you can’t go, provided you have a valid reason. I know I wouldn’t!
  • If I had to count who my real friends were, I’d have about 10 people on my Friends list. There’s hardly much contact with the rest, so what’s the point of being on it then?”

But is it Facebook’s fault, or is it the ‘friends’ in question?

Because, on the other hand, I’m also thinking:

Is it actually about how we are using Facebook?

“Is it the medium or the message? Is it the mirror or the beholder?

Mind you, this opens a whole new can of worms, such as:

  • Is it just my set of ‘friends’ who behave like this?
  • Should I really keep them on my list?
  • Does any of this actually matter?
  • Should we take Facebook seriously – or not?

For me, personally, if it weren’t for Facebook:

  • I wouldn’t have met my husband
  • I wouldn’t have been able to write chapters on social media in a globally published textbook,
  • I wouldn’t have gotten into content marketing
  • I wouldn’t have been able to connect and keep in touch with some people who I really care for – and who do the same for me, but who live in different parts of the planet.

But, but, but… if it also weren’t for Facebook:

  • I wouldn’t have found out who really cares for me and who’s just my ‘friend’ so that they can be nosy and keep a catty eye on what I’m up to by following my posts.
  • I wouldn’t have met some utter jerks
  • I wouldn’t get so peeved by the way we all behave on Facebook.
  • I wouldn’t get so peeved by the blur that is our News Feed/Homepage/Timeline or whatever they’re gonna call it next, with the mishmash of business promotions and endless pictures of mums with their babies, sorry, I mean, social status updates.

In other words, IF Facebook were to close down, would we be at a loss? What about those who aren’t on Facebook, are they still in touch with people across the globe and if so, how much of an effort are they putting into such relationships – probably a lot more, I should think.

In a pre-Facebook world, we would either a) take the time and make the effort to stay in touch with far-flung relatives, friends and associates, or b) lose touch for good.

However, what we are now doing is using Facebook as a ruse to watch what people we know are doing and saying, but putting less and less effort into caring for them. A mere click on the ‘Like’ button seems to be now deemed enough – comments are not even typed in unless it’s something that needs to be vehemently expressed.

How lazy and nosy have we all become, eh?!


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